Banyak orang tua berpikir bahwa kedekatan dengan anaknya akan secara otomatis membuat anak-anak tersebut mau bersikap jujur. Namun, membangun kepercayaan bukanlah hal yang mudah dan tidak dapat terjadi dalam semalam.
Reem Raouda, pelatih pengasuhan anak, menyatakan bahwa hasil penelitian terhadap lebih dari 200 hubungan orang tua dan anak menunjukkan bahwa kedekatan saja tidak cukup untuk membuat anak merasa aman untuk jujur. Anak-anak akan membuka diri ketika mereka tahu bahwa orang tua akan tetap bersikap baik setelah mendengar cerita mereka.
Orang tua yang selalu bisa menjadi “tempat pulang” terpercaya bagi anaknya sejak kecil hingga dewasa adalah mereka yang mampu menciptakan suasana nyaman untuk obrolan yang sulit sekali pun.
Citing CNBC Make It, di sini adalah daftar kebiasaan orang tua yang mendorong anak-anak untuk menjadi terbuka dan percaya diri hingga masa dewasa. Mari simak!
1. Mereka Menenangkan Emosinya Sebelum Memberikan Tanggapan kepada Anak
Ilustrasi orang tua dan anak/Foto: Magnific.com
Seorang anak bisa terbuka saat mereka tidak khawatir tentang bagaimana respons orang tua saat bercerita.
Wise parents understand that a child’s emotions are not a threat or an issue that must be immediately reprimanded. Consequently, they learn to calm their emotions before responding to the child’s story. As a result, the child can trust and share with their parents about the difficult situations they encounter.
2. Bercerita Mengenai Siapa Dirinya Sendiri
Ilustrasi orang tua dan anak/Foto: Magnific.com
Banyak orang tua berharap anaknya bisa terbuka pada mereka, tetapi mereka sendiri menutup diri. Pada akhirnya, seorang anak adalah peniru yang sering kali meniru perilaku orang tuanya.
Parents with open children do not hide behind their titles as father or mother. They continue to show their side of feeling happy, sad, or stressed to their children. This eventually makes the child feel comfortable to also share what they are feeling.
3. Seringkali Menanyakan Perasaan Anak Mereka
Ilustrasi orang tua dan anak/Foto: Magnific.com
Moreover, parents with open children do not just concentrate on their grades, assignments, or achievements. Instead, they also observe their child’s emotions attentively.
They often ask questions such as, “How are you feeling today?”, “Is there something difficult you’re thinking about?”, or “Are you happy?”
These questions demonstrate that the child’s thoughts and feelings deserve attention. This makes the child feel valued and willing to open up.
4. Mengenali dan Menerima Berbagai Perasaan Anak
Ilustrasi orang tua dan anak/Foto: Magnific.com
A parental habit that fosters trust in children is accepting their varied emotions. They accept it when the child is happy, and respond sincerely when the child is angry, sad, or disappointed.
They do not always demand that their child be fine. They are present, embracing the child’s various emotions, without making the child feel afraid of being judged.
5. Melakukan Evaluasi Diri Pasca Konflik
Ilustrasi orang tua dan anak/Foto: Magnific.com
No relationship is without disagreements, including occasional arguments between parents and children. However, parents who maintain closeness with their children until adulthood can mend the situation.
They are not afraid to improve themselves by apologizing. They take responsibility, act wisely, and apologize when mistakes occur.
They will say, “I was too harsh with you earlier” or “Forgive mom and dad’s mistake.” They teach that conflict is normal, and the importance of self-improvement after such conflict.
Beauties, those are the habits of parents that make children open and trusting until adulthood. What do you think?
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