Dealing with a friend who talks too much can be confusing. On the one hand, you want to listen to them. But on the other hand, they dominate the conversation and make you or others in the chat unable to share.
Facing this type of person can sometimes be tiring, yeah, Thecuy. It’s not that we think their story isn’t important, but we understand that conversation should happen in two directions. There’s someone who listens, there’s someone who speaks, and this role should be taken turns.
Well, you can look at how smart people wisely handle a friend who talks too much. Summarized from Psychology Today, let’s check out the review!
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<p>Clever Strategies for Dealing With a Chatty Friend/Photo: Freepik</p>
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<p>Smart people still listen to their friends' stories, but when it drags on for too long, they set a limit. While listening, they think about what the other person is really trying to convey.</p>
Does their story seem like they want to be admired and praised? Is their story something truly personal that they have kept hidden for a long time? Is it an emotion they can’t control? Those are the questions that pop into a smart person’s mind.
Ask Questions
Smart Ways to Handle a Talkative Friend/Photo: Freepik
After listening briefly and reflecting on what the other person wants to say, a smart person will ask if the interlocutor doesn’t mind if they interrupt the story for a moment. The other person might say, “Oh, I’m talking too much, you tell the story.”
If the other person says, “Please let me finish my story,” the smart person will respond gently and reply, “Oh, I thought you were done talking. May I share what I understood from your words just now?” This statement shows that the smart person is listening and valuing the other’s story.
However, if they keep talking, the smart person will patiently listen. But if they switch topics, the smart person will interrupt them with the sentence above. This method also serves to filter information so that the conversation doesn’t go off in different directions.
Tricks to Interrupt Conversation
Clever Tactics for Cutting Off a Talkative Friend/Photo: Freepik
When a smart person decides to interrupt their interlocutor, they will comment on the key points of the other’s story. Smart people don’t provide deep psychological explanations; just say something simple and straight to the point.
But pay attention, say something that reflects a positive view of the interlocutor. Don’t be surprised if they start interrupting, many people interrupt others because they are afraid of being criticized.
Smart people stay calm and say, “Hold on, I want to finish my thoughts now,” then express what they want to say about the other’s conversation.
Give Your Own Perspective
Show Your Own Angle/Photo: Freepik
Smart people don’t just comment on the other’s story, Thecuy. They share their own experiences, which shows that they understand what the other person is going through.
Memories of similar events, similar feelings, funny stories, any story that gives smart people a chance to share their own experiences but they can relate to the other’s experience.
End the Conversation If It Goes On Too Long
Stop the conversation if it drags on too long/Photo: Freepik
Smart people will end the conversation if it goes on for too long. There’s nothing wrong with telling someone you’ve been listening to longer than the time you have to wrap things up.
Smart people will apologize and give a reason, like having other work to do. The conversation can be continued another time.
If the other person is the type who will come back later to continue the conversation, and the smart person feels they have no energy left to listen, they will say, “Sorry, I’m busy right now.” This is a way to protect their own boundaries.
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