When asked “how are you?” there are many possible answers. But many people hide their sadness, put on their best smile, and answer, “I’m fine.” Ever been in this situation, Thecuy?
For them, it’s easier to pretend to be fine than to explain what’s going on. The response “I’m fine” can sometimes become an automatic reaction for someone.
“But, if you keep using that answer with people who care about you, or when life pressures mount, it can backfire. At that point, saying ‘I’m fine’ is no longer just a courtesy, but starts building a wall against others,” she told Parade.
According to psychologists, someone who always says “I’m fine” even when they aren’t has certain personality traits. What are they? Come on, check out the review below!
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<p>Someone who often says "I'm fine" always tries to avoid conflict. When they are caught in a heated discussion or face a problem, they use this phrase as a way to maintain peace.</p>
“Admitting that they’re upset feels like opening the door to an argument, so ‘I’m fine’ becomes a shield,” Dr. Lipkin explained.
According to psychologist Golee Abrishami, PhD, expressing more honest feelings than just saying “I’m fine” can make someone feel like they are bothering others.
“Maintaining peace and avoiding uncomfortable conversations may be a priority for that person,” he said.
Selalu Ingin Membuat Orang Lain Bahagia
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A people pleaser, someone who always tries to please others, often uses the phrase “I’m fine”. This phrase can cause them to ignore their own feelings and prioritize others’ feelings.
“They are more concerned with making others feel comfortable than with revealing the truth,” Dr. Lipkin said. “If they admit they’re having difficulties, they’re afraid that will burden others.”
Sering Menyimpan Emosi dalam Diri
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They are the type of people who like to bottle up emotions. The reason is, it’s easier to bury their emotions in silence than to share them with others.
Over time, according to Dr. Lipkin, they learn that it’s safer to set aside feelings than to risk showing vulnerability. Often, people who grew up feeling neglected or have emotionally absent parents have this tendency, Thecuy.
Mengalami Emosi yang Meluap-luap
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A person who feels overwhelmed tends to bottle up emotions. Saying ‘I’m fine’ is seen as the easiest way to answer other people’s questions about their condition. In fact, this sense of relief and lightness is only short-lived.
“A person may feel emotionally overwhelmed, and the feeling is too big to process at that moment, so they downplay it with a simple expression,” Dr. Abrishami said.
Memiliki Sifat Perfeksionis
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People who often say ‘I’m fine’ feel uncomfortable with mistakes, failures, or negative perceptions from others. In short, they are perfectionists.
“When your identity is tied to the demand to always appear perfect and controlled, admitting that ‘I’m not okay’ feels like a failure,” Dr. Lipkin said. “So you keep smiling and insist everything’s fine.”
Memiliki Sikap Tertutup
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They build a high personal defense wall. They don’t want anyone to see their vulnerable side.
“Saying ‘I’m fine’ keeps them from having to engage in deeper conversations that they may not be ready for,” Dr. Abrishami said.
Closed-off behavior and fear of vulnerability can stem from fear of being judged. On the other hand, they have also become accustomed to handling problems alone without asking for help.
Merasa Bangga akan Kemandirian
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Expressing feelings is the same as asking for help. That’s their mindset. If they ask for help, they’re afraid of appearing not independent. Yet that is one of the aspects they are most proud of themselves.
“They may feel proud because they can handle various things on their own,” Dr. Abrishami explained. “Saying ‘I’m fine’ could be a way to say, ‘I can handle this myself.’
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