Childhood is a very important time for a person’s development. This will shape one’s identity, emotional regulation, social skills, and even emotional resilience.
Psychologists say that this is where parents’ parenting style plays a crucial role in shaping a child’s personality as an adult.
Children who feel safe and supported from an early age will have healthy relationships with themselves and others. On the other hand, a child who grows up under constant parental criticism may become the harshest critic of themselves.
“If parents are constantly critical, it can lay the foundation for unhealthy behavior and a negative self-image. It can also harm a child’s ability to develop a healthy self-concept, and affect their social relationships and happiness,” said Dr. Beth Pausic, Psy.D., a clinical psychologist at Kooth Digital Health.
Citing Parade, psychologists say that children who grow up under constant parental criticism exhibit certain personality traits. What are they? Check it out!
1. Perfeksionis
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The first personality trait of a child who grows up under constant parental criticism is perfectionism.
Since childhood, any mistakes or failures were never tolerated by parents. Eventually, they grow up into children who want to do everything flawlessly. Even though they know perfection does not exist, they still demand the best possible results from themselves.
According to Dr. Ernesto Lira de la Rosa, Ph.D., children who feel their efforts are always insufficient will work hard to meet high standards in order to please their parents. As a result, they set high standards and often have difficulty completing tasks because they feel the results are not ‘perfect’.
2. Mandiri
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Children who grow up with parental criticism may become independent individuals. On one hand, this independence is good and admirable.
On the other hand, this independence reveals that they have difficulty trusting and connecting with others. They feel that only they are the best, so they tend to do everything themselves and seem to withdraw from their environment.
In fact, asking for help when needed is not a weakness. However, they find it difficult to accept or ask for help.
3. Rendah Diri
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The next personality trait of a child who is often criticized is low self-esteem.
Because they are used to being blamed, they feel unworthy of love, kindness, or respect from a young age. Eventually, this personality carries over into adulthood.
According to Dr. Erisa M. Preston, Psy.D., a clinical psychologist at Mindpath Health, signs of low self-esteem include frequently avoiding eye contact, adopting a bowed posture, and struggling to stand up for oneself.
4. Suka Bicara Negatif pada Diri Sendiri
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Being accustomed to parental criticism from a young age makes them grow up into skilled critics of themselves.
“Parental criticism can become something that children (and later as adults) continue to do themselves,” said Dr. Pausic.
This inner criticism carries over into adulthood, causing them to constantly give themselves harsh criticism and making it difficult for them to avoid it.
Ladies, those are some of the personality traits of children who grow up under constant parental criticism. What do you think?
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