Thecuy, apakah kamu sering melihat tren things my ex did and i still stayed yang kini viral di media sosial? Netizen ramai membuat konten yang menyebutkan perilaku red flag dari mantan kekasih mereka, namun anehnya tetap memilih bertahan saat hubungan tersebut masih berjalan.
Bagi sebagian orang, menormalisasi red flag tidak menjadi masalah besar. Bukan karena kebodohan semata, secara psikologis ada mekanisme pertahanan bawah sadar dan manipulasi emosional yang kuat di baliknya.
Yuk simak 5 alasan mengapa seseorang bisa bertahan dalam hubungan yang toksik berikut!
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<h2 class="fw-bold fs-5">1. Holding Positive Illusions and False Expectations</h2>
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<p>Holding Positive Illusions and False Expectations/Foto: Magnific/ Drazen Zigic</p>
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<p>Cinta itu buta, istilah itu mungkin tidak asing lagi terdengar di telingamu kan, Thecuy? Saat jatuh cinta, ternyata otak cenderung berfokus pada potensi masa depan seseorang daripada realitas perilakunya saat ini. </p>
Citing Psychology Today, many people ignore red flags because they’re caught up in the belief that they can change their partner’s bad character over time, sweetened with the word patience.
They always justify every bad action of their partner so it remains in line with the ideal image they desire
2. Attachment Disorder and Fear of Loneliness
Attachment Disorder and Fear of Loneliness/Foto: Magnific/foto pers
According to Psychology Today, a deep fear of rejection, loneliness, and relationship failure often forces someone to tolerate another person’s bad behavior.
If someone has this attachment style, they feel that being together with a toxic person is far better than having to feel lonely on their own.
Those trapped in this condition think that no one else will love them as much as their ex did during the sweet early phase of a relationship. Have you ever felt the same, Thecuy?
3. Low Self-Esteem
Low Self-Esteem/Foto: Magnific/luar biasa
Thecuy, did you know there’s a strong correlation between how we view ourselves and what we tolerate from others? Citing Medium, someone with low self-esteem often feels unworthy of a healthy relationship.
The danger is, they feel worthless and deserving of bad treatment. No no ya, Thecuy! Take care of your self-worth and don’t let it depend on a toxic relationship.
4. Fear of Continuous Loss
Fear of Continuous Loss/Foto: Magnific/Dragen Zigic
According to Psychology Today, psychologically and behaviorally, humans have a tendency to be biased toward continuing to stay in a bad situation if they have sacrificed a lot of things, from time, energy, to even financial aspects.
Someone who normalizes red flags in their partner feels too invested and thinks that ending the relationship would mean wasting all the sacrifices they have made.
5. Damaged Boundaries Due to Social Media Normalization
Damaged Boundaries Due to Social Media Normalization/Foto: Magnific/luar biasa
Seeing red flag behavior everywhere, unconsciously makes a person ignore their own boundaries and consider it part of romantic dynamics. Social media exposure often blurs the line between normal relationship drama and actual dangerous manipulation.
The ‘Things My Ex Did and I Still Stayed’ trend is not a stage to embarrass oneself, but a reminder and concrete evidence that you have grown, learned to recognize your own boundaries, and managed to escape the cycle of unhealthy relationships.
From the conditions above, have you also experienced any of them, Thecuy?
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